February 09, 2006

Dear so-and-so

Do you know one of the most important things about handling children like them really is the word 'consistency'? For those who are not behaving because of an incapability to, consistency helps to assure them, to give them some form of prediction and positive associative learning. If I do this 1 time, I get a positive recognition, it means I do it 10 times, I will also get it. If I do it 100 times, well, then it becomes a habit. Presto! 1 good behaviour learnt. For those who are not behaving because of their choice not to, consistency helps to assure them too! Assure that their choice is a bad choice the 1st time, will be a bad choice the 2nd time, 3rd, 4th, and hopefully, they soon learn to see their choice is just not going to get them what they want.

It's a really simple idea, honestly. I mean, lab mice understand it! duh!

So, why is it that certain educators who claim to be more professional than many others do not get it? Certain educators who sit in the leader positions in an environment as delicate as this do not advocate this standard like they should, and like they preach? Why are they giving in to students whose only disorder seems to be a misused and abused high IQ? Students who not only can read body language and can manipulate minds too. It's pathetic. Because if you ask me for my not so humble opinion, I think educators who allow themselves to be manipulated by their own students are the most failed of the lot.

I do not believe there is any space for negotiation when it comes to students or children throwing tantrums to get their way. How the hell do you tell a kid like that who's boss when you give in to their emotional blackmail? It's not even emotional. It's simply behavioural.

Can't stand their screaming? Can't take their kicking? Get help! Pull them up and drop them in the middle of the field and shout at the sky. Trust me, the sky will be able to take it. Do it a few more times, you see if they don't get it!

I mean, honestly, how difficult is it to manage a team of 60 staff and hundreds of students with just 3 persons? Very difficult. How difficult is it to manage a team of 60 staff and hundreds of students with just 3 persons who can't seem to iron out a consistent standard, expectation and protocol? Absolutely suicidal. Not on the 3 persons, but on the 60 staff. It's just, un, fair.

It's ridiculous, it's sheer crap, it's just a lot of 'what the fuck?!'

And, I'm an outsider. But, hey! My girlfriend's suffering! I'm angry, and I do not like it.

So, hear! There's no dream to come true when you can't even wake up to reality!

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 00:30